Build self-confidence, and whatever it is—make the time. Do it for yourself. Going solo isn’t about being lonely. It’s about giving yourself the freedom to fully enjoy what makes you happy. This choice will strengthen your self-respect and strengthen close relationships.
I recently got a lovely surprise in my inbox, I received this email from Kaylee:
Dear Linda,
I just wanted to thank you sincerely for encouraging me to venture out on my own. Your gentle nudge meant more than you know.
I’m lucky to have a wonderful, supportive partner, and we share so much joy together—especially in the outdoors. We often go hiking and walking through the bush, and he’s always been encouraging of my love for wildflowers. That said, when I stop to photograph them, he tends to get a bit restless and eager to keep moving. I, on the other hand, could spend hours immersed in the beauty of each bloom.
Yesterday, I took your advice and went out into the bush alone, just me and my camera. It was incredibly peaceful. I wandered slowly, soaking in the surroundings, and spent nearly three hours photographing at my own pace. No one rushing me. Just quiet, nature, and the joy of doing something I truly love.
I’m so grateful to you for inspiring me to take that step. It was a deeply fulfilling experience, and I absolutely loved it.
Regards, Kaylee
So that was Kaylee’s email. Isn’t that beautiful? I love how she shared not just her gratitude, but also the way she found so much joy in simply taking that step to go out on her own. Her story really highlights something important…
You can build the confidence to do things solo, even when you have a wonderful supportive partner. Being in a relationship doesn’t mean you have to do absolutely everything together. In fact, sometimes it can be really healthy to take a little time apart and enjoy the things you love at your own pace.
… enjoy the things you love…
Taking time for yourself to enjoy the things you love—especially the ones your partner doesn’t love quite as much—can actually reduce frustration and prevent resentment. It gives you the freedom to go at your own pace, without feeling like you’re holding anyone back. You are making sure you don’t miss out on the experiences that light you up inside. And when you come back together, you’ve got new energy and joy to share.
How to reduce resentment in a relationship?
Start by doing the things you love—especially the ones your partner doesn’t enjoy. It’s okay to want solo time for activities that light you up. Chances are, your partner has their own interests too. Here are 3 steps to take:
- Talk about it openly with your partner, discuss what you need
- Make a decision together
- Take action – build self-confidence to step out on your own, solo, and do what makes you feel alive
Challenge for you
So here’s my challenge for you: try it. Even if it’s just for 30 minutes, an hour, or an afternoon. Go do something on your own, for yourself, with no rushing and no compromises. What would that look like for you? Maybe it’s enjoying a coffee and cake by yourself, reading a book in the park, going for a slow walk, or, like Kaylee, spending time with your camera.
Whatever it is—give yourself that gift. Do it for you. Remember: going solo isn’t about being alone, it’s about giving yourself the space to fully enjoy what makes you happy.
Go solo. Enjoy the journey. – Linda
Linda Marie Travel 